Refocus After Setbacks

Refocus After Setbacks


Wow, what a year we have had! 2020 has been interesting to say the least. How many times have you tried something new and then a setback occurs, and you just go back to the way you were? How many times have you started a diet, or a new way of thinking just to feel so far behind? I think this year has proven; we all need to think differently.

Do not worry; you are not the only one!

Setbacks and difficulties occur all the time – they are a natural activity of life. I do not think any of us were expecting COVID-19 to hit the way it did.

The way I see it, there are two ways of facing difficulties.

You either change or alter the difficulty or you can alter yourself to be able to deal with it. I chose the latter.

Deal with difficulties correctly and it will enhance your confidence. Deal with them incorrectly and they can do some serious damage to your self-worth, believe me I know.

Your Response to Issues and Difficulties

When you are faced with any setback, your ability to deal with it can be turned around into a position of strength by asking yourself some positive empowering questions.

There is an unwritten rule that says: “Ask your mind a stupid question and you will get a stupid answer!”

So, if after your setback ask yourself something like:

“Why does this always happen to me? I never have any luck!”

Your mind will probably come out with:

“Because you are useless and good things do not happen to you!”

Sound familiar?

Instead, if you ask yourself a positive empowering question like:

“What did I learn from this setback for next time?”

Your mind will kick into solution mode and help.

Rules and Things to Think About When You Have a Setback

Acknowledge that it has happened. Do not hide from it. These things happen. So what?

What positive empowering questions can you ask yourself?

What is good about this situation?

How can I make the most of this situation?

What can I learn from it?

What are the facts about this problem?

How can we make it a successful outcome?

Acknowledge that setbacks occur to everyone and you are not being singled out.

View them as a challenge to overcome rather than an issue or problem.

Think about the negative dis-empowering thoughts that you think on a regular basis after a setback.

What new empowering questions could you ask yourself to give some better answers? Write these down now and make them a habit. TODAY!


Kelly Smyth has over 10 years’ experience as a master personal trainer and motivational life coach. Her commitment to her clients is to provide accountability, understanding, and support. Kelly not only trains her clients in the gym; she incorporates both mind and body together. She inspires each client to be the best version of themselves while working on health, fitness, nutrition, self-confidence, motivation, and the discipline needed to face obstacles that come along both inside and outside the gym. Visit her on the Web at Livelifeunstoppable.com.

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